Feeling Stuck? Well, Get Out of Your Own Way!

Deciding on the subject of my very first blog post was nearly crippling. Ridiculous, I know. I researched and researched and thought about different topics I could cover, but nothing stuck. So, I waited and waited. All the while my website said, ‘coming soon.’ 

I worry too much about having everything just right. It’s not even about other people and what they think. It’s me. I don’t know if it’s a fear of failing or just being too critical of myself. But what I do know is enough is enough.  It’s time to just start. That’s all. Doesn’t have to be scary or perfect. Just start.   

I could spend the rest of my life researching. Research is good to a certain point. Doing is the key. It exposes you to new experiences and people that research will never do.  The older I get the more likely I am to just say fuck it and go for it. Common concept, I think, as we age.

My husband and I went to Key West for the first time earlier this year.  We were having a great time in a bar called Irish Kevin’s. There was just a single performer and his guitar on the stage. He was fantastic and we were having a great time. People were tipping for requests and a few were even tipping more to have their friends dragged up there to sing and dance on stage with him. 

Now, we are in Key West. We were drinking.  I was feeling good. My sweet husband requested a Bon Jovi song for me (I am indeed a Jersey girl who loves Bon Jovi, cliché, whatever, I have so much joy attached to their music. That’s a story for another day.) I was loving the song. I think it was Living on a Prayer. Well, this sweet husband of mine (Did I mention that he is an extrovert?? He can make friends with a wall, no lie) starts getting new friends we made to help him encourage me to get up on the stage. Did I mention that I am an introvert??

I’m sure it was a combination of the alcohol and my age. I said fuck it and went with it.  Up on the stage I went.  I sang and played the tambourine and wiggled my butt on that stage. The place was filled with awesome, fun and kind people which made it much easier. I even made my first $1 performing! That’s right, I was so good a gentleman tipped me a whole dollar. I had fun!

Here is what I know, just get out and do. There is no magic process I can list out for you. You simply must take the leap. Surround yourself with kind, fun and supportive people. Do what you’ve been dreaming of…do it. Stop waiting. Life is short.

That is what I am starting here my friends. I hope you will join me and follow me. I’m sure there will be ups and downs, but I am doing it and I’m not going to let anything get in my way. That includes me. 

Go enjoy your day!

Be sincere, stay a little salty and always beautiful.